Creating a Love and Logic Environment at School (and Home!)

Spanish Schoolhouse Fort Worth uses the Love and Logic® methodology to help promote healthy teacher-student relationships and positive school-wide discipline. The main goal of Love and Logic is to teach respect, self-respect, personal responsibility, and cooperation.  We use “love” in building positive relationships with the children, and allow the “logic” of natural consequences to do the teaching.

Love and Logic® is a program based on adults (parents/teachers) staying very calm and positive, showing empathy, and asking children to make choices about behavior within limits. With this method, children learn to control themselves and understand natural consequences.

Two Basic Rules of Love and Logic

 The key to Love and Logic is found in two basic, yet critical rules. 

  1. Adults set firm limits in LOVING ways (without any anger, lecture, threats, or repetition) and provide choices within these limits.
  2. When a child misbehaves and causes problems, the adult hands these problems back in loving ways for the child to solve.

To create a Love and Logic environment in Spanish Schoolhouse Fort Worth classrooms, limits are explained with “Class Rules,” and Manners of the Week which are posted on the wall and are talked about often at Circle Time.  These rules include things like being a good listener, respecting others, and using an inside voice.  We know it’s natural for every child to test limits, so our teachers expect children to push the boundaries from time to time!

Teachers then use ENFORCEABLE STATEMENTS to help remind students of the rules, like: “You may participate as long as there is no name-calling,” “Snack is ready for children who have washed their hands,” or “I read to children who are sitting still.”  These are very helpful in group situations but can be used just as effectively at home.

Love and Logic Toolkit

  • With Love and Logic, we SHARE CONTROL by offering choices within limits. If a student is not following the rules, teachers offer two choices.  Both choices offered should always be acceptable to the adult. For example:  “You may wash your hands now, or you may wait.  Snack time will be over in 10 minutes.  I hope you will join us,” or “Would you like to tell your friend you are sorry, or would you rather draw him a picture to ask for forgiveness?”  If a child doesn’t choose within 10 seconds, the adult chooses for them. 
  • If a child continues to misbehave or throws a tantrum, we offer a good dose of EMPATHY before applying consequences. SSH teachers choose an empathetic phrase to keep handy (you might see it on sticky notes in the classroom!) and use it regularly.  It can be something like, “Thanks for telling me,” or “I know.”  (Gracias por decirme, Ya sé).  Empathy makes it harder for kids to blame adults for the consequences of their poor decisions.  Getting angry, making threats, or lecturing makes it really easy for kids to blame adults, so we avoid those.  Teachers are trained to use the “brain dead” technique – don’t argue or discuss, just repeat your statement.  “I know, I know.”    
  • After delivering empathy, the adult invites SHARED THINKING. This means waiting for the child to calm down and then asking the child to think about how we can solve this problem.  (Example:  “How sad!  I noticed you were pushing your friend and not respecting him.  What do you think we can do about that?”)  This process helps children learn to solve their problems instead of relying on adults to do it for them. 

Shared Trust + Shared Control = Self-confidence!

Love and Logic works best when trust has been established between the adult and the child.  That’s one reason why we focus so much on building trust at the start of the school year! At Spanish Schoolhouse Fort Worth, teachers allow students to share control throughout the day by frequently offering choices. This helps build positive adult-child relationships and helps develop the child’s sense of self-respect and personal responsibility.

Using Love and Logic takes practice.  Home-school consistency can be a huge benefit.  If you’d like to learn more, many resources are available at  If you have any concerns about your child’s behavior, your director will happily work with you on strategies.   We hope this little overview has given you an idea of how we create a Love and Logic environment at Spanish Schoolhouse Fort Worth.  It’s a powerful tool for creating harmony in the classroom and at home!